Is Your Teen Struggling Socially? Here’s What to Look For—and How Group Therapy Can Help
The teen years are a time of immense growth and self-discovery. But for many teenagers, this chapter is also marked by social struggles that can deeply impact their mental health.
Both preteens and teens missed out on key social-emotional development during the early stages of COVID, when school and classes were held virtually. More than five years later, we’re still seeing the effects of that disruption in our clients. Bullying, loneliness, and difficulty navigating social dynamics are increasingly common—and these challenges often lead to anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem.
Signs Your Teen May Be Struggling
It is not always obvious when a teen is struggling socially. If you are a parent to a teen or work in a middle or high school, here are some signs to look out for:
Difficulty making friends
Trouble maintaining friendships and/or relationships
Rarely (or never) getting together with friends outside of school
Not texting or speaking to friends outside of school
Lacking positive social interactions (in girls this will often look like a lot of “drama” among friend groups, with on-again, off-again friendships).
Unfortunately, low self-esteem often plays a big role in causing social issues in teens. Teens who may have previously experienced social rejection may especially struggle to put themselves out there socially, thus causing further social isolation.
So What Can You Do?
If you suspect that your child is struggling socially, do not dismiss it. Talk to your teen about how they feel things are going socially for them.
If they are receptive to your help, try to brainstorm with them about where they may be able to find peers who are similar to them so that they can begin building more meaningful connections with others. Think about what your teen is interested in and encourage them to engage in activities where they will find others who share similar interests. Examples may include:
Joining a school play or club
Doing an extracurricular activity
Volunteering somewhere
Having access to like-minded peers is the first step towards finding realistic social opportunities. The next task is more difficult, though, because it involves working through both the social anxiety and self-esteem challenges that are present, as well as using complex social skills that may not come naturally to your teen.
How Group Therapy Can Help
Group therapy may sound like an intimidating thing for a teen to try. They may ask, “What if I know someone there?” “What if it’s weird?” or “What if I feel awkward?” However, once in the group, our clients find the experience to be validating and rewarding.
Our practice offers a variety of teen groups, all with different goals and demographics, but the common thread throughout is that all of our group members walk away with the understanding that they are not alone. Not only are they not alone, but by meeting others who have similar struggles, they learn more about themselves in the process. And by participating in group therapy, they actively (directly and indirectly) work on their social skills.
Some of our groups use a more focused social skills approach, where teens learn and practice skills in a structured, class-like format. In some of our other groups, the therapists teach these skills in a far more experiential way, where patterns of social behavior are noticed and talked about more openly in the group as they are happening. Regardless of which format of group they are in, our teen group members report feeling seen, heard and validated by one another in a way they’ve never experienced before, often leading to an increase in self-confidence.
The group therapy experience has helped our teens extrapolate these skills outside of their group therapy setting to make friends and deepen their relationships with others.
Contact us today to schedule a free 15-minute call with our intake coordinator to learn more about our current and upcoming group offerings!